The Power of Saying No: Protecting Your Energy for What Matters Most
You've built a phenomenal career, conquered every challenge, and commanded respect in the boardroom. But lately, that fire that once fuelled you feels like a flickering ember.
Exhaustion tugs at your heels, and the life you crave – one filled with creativity, spaciousness, and a touch of luxury – seems miles away.
So you hustle harder, and work more to try to re-create the spark. But here’s the thing. The hustle isn’t where the power lies. Your true power lies in learning the art of saying no.
I know, I know. For years, most of your life really, ‘no’ was a dirty word. You weren’t allowed to say it as a kid, you certainly were not taught to say it as a young adult.
Instead you were taught to repress your needs, ignore your pain and desires, and power through. And whilst that sort of attitude might have got you to the top of the corporate ladder, it’s also the attitude that will see your flaming spark burn out.
Because here’s the truth. Burnout doesn’t happen because you’re doing too much. It happens because you’re not doing enough of what light’s you up.
“No” is a full sentence, yet many of us – myself included – find ourselves drowning in to-do lists that stretch longer than our long macchiatos. We become chronically burned out, sacrificing our precious energy for commitments that don't spark joy.
But what if saying no could actually unlock the life you crave?
Saying no isn't selfish. It's a power move. It's about guarding your precious energy and directing it towards what truly matters.
Here’s how you can learn to say no:
1. Identify Your Energy Drains. Be honest with yourself. What leaves you feeling depleted? Is it that one toxic friend who always dumps their negativity on you? The soul-sucking committee meeting that drains your time and has no tangible outcomes? Once you pinpoint the energy vampires, you can start setting boundaries.
2. Practice the Art of "No, Thank You." A simple, polite “no, thank you” is all you need. Don't feel pressured to justify your decision or offer elaborate excuses. When we feel the need to justify why we’re saying no, this comes from our ‘good girl’ conditioning. Every time you say “no, thank you” and feel the urge to elaborate, breathe in for a count of 3 and out for a count of 5. Repeat until you feel calm. “I need to prioritise my wellbeing” is also a great little line that usually ends the conversation if people are trying to push your boundaries.
3. Reprogram Your "Yes" Reflex. Instead of automatically agreeing, give yourself the gift of time to reflect. “Let me check my calendar and get back to you by [insert day] will give you time to check in with yourself and break your ‘Yes’ habit. Ask yourself, "Does this align with my priorities and values?" If it does you can say yes. If not, go back to number 2 above!
4. Embrace the Power of Silence. Sometimes, a simple "Mmm" or a smile is enough. You don't have to fill every silence with an explanation. This goes back to the urge to over-explain. Breathe through it. Not every questions needs a response.
5. Offer Alternatives. Saying no doesn't mean slamming the door shut. Could you suggest a different time commitment? Can you delegate a task? Saying no with a solution shows respect for others' needs while protecting your own.
Ready to reclaim your energy and create a life that truly lights you up?
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Join me at the upcoming Beltane Retreat. Imagine yourself surrounded by a supportive sisterhood, learning ancient rituals for manifestation, and designing a life that feels luxurious and deeply fulfilling.
